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A few weeks ago (a week before Christmas) my daughter and I both got sick. I mean sick. Then as I was fighting the flu and trying to get better for the family festivities, my father in law passed away and then the furnace quit in -40 weather (and to make matters worse, we couldn't order parts because of the holiday season).  I mean, my life was upside down.  At this point I was just trying to survive, stay warm and get through the day. Then to add on to it, I still had a business to run. It took every bit of energy to do my lives, create content, write emails, respond to messages, the list goes on. But here is what remains true during these times. Even in our most trying moments, LIFE goes on. IT MUST GO ON. And no, this isn't a sob story or a feel sorry for me kind of post. It's life. It's real. It's f*cking messy. It's both ugly and beautiful at the same time.  Anyways, I was venting to my mentor about how can I manage life when it's in the toilet bowl and...

  Are you excited yet? You finally have CLARITY of what you want to achieve in your business. More clients? Great, promote your offer. A group program? Great; now to map out who it’s for. A membership? Oh, how fun; decide what will be included. So you get fast to work. You start creating a sales page, you decide on some offers or hell…you might even start sales calls. But where are you going to lead them to? A landing page that isn’t done yet? A sales page that isn’t set up to accept payments? A course that isn’t set up yet? A freebie that is yet to be completed? See the problem with going all-in without a blueprint, without an action plan of what happens first, second, third? This method or lack thereof will cause a lot of backtracking, a lot of going back and forth between main components constantly adjusting sales pages, course content, social media content, changing your offers, etc and then moving forward to getting the name out there only to realize that the back end of your ...

  "Here, let me just do it. I can do it quickly and then it'll be done," "If I hurry and get this done, that's one less thing on my to-do list," "Submit this early and feel less stressed," or "the deadline is next week, I’ll just get started on it and get it out of the way,” or perhaps my famous last words “I don’t understand why everyone else is a procrastinator, why can’t they just get stuff done ahead of time?”   You’ve read articles, blogs, research articles and the like on procrastination and the like. You’ve probably read or heard so much about it that you can talk about it quite comfortably and be accurate about it. Though I procrastinated on writing this blog, this blog isn’t about it at all. What many people have not heard of yet is precrastination. Or, in other words, the lack of any procrastination. You can read more about this fairly new phenomenon here . You may have met someone that is a precrastinator, but instead of labell...

  Picture it: a girls’ trip….long overdue; where it is   only the girls and NO KIDS  attached to our hips. To say we were excited, would be a huge understatement. For some people, this might be an every weekend or so occurrence but for us, it sure is not. Actually, it has been years. We were so excited to just be together and enjoy one another’s company and to do so hiking in one of the most beautiful, picturesque mountain parks in Alberta, Canada – Banff National Park- was just an amazing opportunity to make great memories. We set out at 7 AM and after a long three-hour drive through the mountain pass on Highway 93, we arrived at our destination: Lake Louise. Our excitement, our adrenaline, our motivation to climb that mountain was at an all-time high. Much to our dismay, all of the parking lots were full and to further add to the disappointment we were turned away from our final destination of Lake Agnes Tea House, due to Covid-19. I was crushed. I so badly needed this...

  It's Not Good Enough!  I dreaded writing this blog. I dreaded it because it’s about being a perfectionist and   I’m a perfectionist.   In it, I provide some ideas to help you overcome perfectionist tendencies. These are the very steps I have taken in my journey. As I sit here, I can’t help but wonder how life would be different if I was perfect. What if my career was perfect, what would that look like? What if my relationships are perfect? Why, oh why can’t things just be perfect. I have struggled many years with being a perfectionist. A goal that I have yet to achieve. I have beat myself up, cried many nights with thoughts of failure. I distanced myself from those I cared the most about so that they wouldn’t see me as a failure. I felt worthless. I felt ashamed. As a precrastinator, which you can read more about  here , I would say “yes” to things to please others, I would say “yes” to make myself feel better by achieving more, I would say “yes” because I did...

Am I Made For This?  “I got lucky,” “I am not qualified” “I don’t deserve this,” “It’s just a matter of time before everyone finds out and then I’ll be a fraud.”   First coined in the 1970’s by psychologists Suzanne Imes, PhD, and Pauline Rose Clance, PhD, impostor phenomenon occurs mostly among high achievers who have a hard time internalizing and accept their success.  Researchers have found that upwards of 70% of people have experienced feelings of unworthiness and doubt at some point in their lives. Truth is, feelings of being an imposter can really keep you back from going for your dreams, accepting that promotion or starting your own business. You find it hard to accept praise. (Oh yes, when I have had reviews and they were positive I doubted every single one of them and felt like a fraud) Reflect on your successes and say thank you. Leave it at that. “Thank you” You have incredibly high standards, that can not be met. Change your standards (yup, I too had to defi...