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  Picture it: a girls’ trip….long overdue; where it is   only the girls and NO KIDS  attached to our hips. To say we were excited, would be a huge understatement. For some people, this might be an every weekend or so occurrence but for us, it sure is not. Actually, it has been years. We were so excited to just be together and enjoy one another’s company and to do so hiking in one of the most beautiful, picturesque mountain parks in Alberta, Canada – Banff National Park- was just an amazing opportunity to make great memories. We set out at 7 AM and after a long three-hour drive through the mountain pass on Highway 93, we arrived at our destination: Lake Louise. Our excitement, our adrenaline, our motivation to climb that mountain was at an all-time high. Much to our dismay, all of the parking lots were full and to further add to the disappointment we were turned away from our final destination of Lake Agnes Tea House, due to Covid-19. I was crushed. I so badly needed this...

  It's Not Good Enough!  I dreaded writing this blog. I dreaded it because it’s about being a perfectionist and   I’m a perfectionist.   In it, I provide some ideas to help you overcome perfectionist tendencies. These are the very steps I have taken in my journey. As I sit here, I can’t help but wonder how life would be different if I was perfect. What if my career was perfect, what would that look like? What if my relationships are perfect? Why, oh why can’t things just be perfect. I have struggled many years with being a perfectionist. A goal that I have yet to achieve. I have beat myself up, cried many nights with thoughts of failure. I distanced myself from those I cared the most about so that they wouldn’t see me as a failure. I felt worthless. I felt ashamed. As a precrastinator, which you can read more about  here , I would say “yes” to things to please others, I would say “yes” to make myself feel better by achieving more, I would say “yes” because I did...

Am I Made For This?  “I got lucky,” “I am not qualified” “I don’t deserve this,” “It’s just a matter of time before everyone finds out and then I’ll be a fraud.”   First coined in the 1970’s by psychologists Suzanne Imes, PhD, and Pauline Rose Clance, PhD, impostor phenomenon occurs mostly among high achievers who have a hard time internalizing and accept their success.  Researchers have found that upwards of 70% of people have experienced feelings of unworthiness and doubt at some point in their lives. Truth is, feelings of being an imposter can really keep you back from going for your dreams, accepting that promotion or starting your own business. You find it hard to accept praise. (Oh yes, when I have had reviews and they were positive I doubted every single one of them and felt like a fraud) Reflect on your successes and say thank you. Leave it at that. “Thank you” You have incredibly high standards, that can not be met. Change your standards (yup, I too had to defi...